Insanity

They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome...

Over at the SW group it has been a week of "I fucked up, help me" posts. Skimming through them there is often other common themes...

They had a rule that they broke, he got pissed and dumped them and they don't understand what happened and where it went wrong...

Consequences people, is what happened. Where it went wrong? Oh that one suspects is a slightly different thing.

Now it may be that in their world there aren't actually consequences to their behaviour. Well not one's that they have enough insight to work out are actually connected, or it may be that growing up there weren't any consequences to breaking rules... well not one's that actually sunk in at any rate.

Mayhap they hadn't worked out that he had this strange notion that obedience was mandatory, rather than a whim of theirs.

It may be that they just aren't used to men who don't heel the way they have grown accustomed to.

Perhaps they didn't understand the rules, well not as he intended them at any rate.

Maybe it was an excuse to move on before his wife found out.

Or perhaps neither of them was particularly good at communicating needs and expectations.

And perhaps, most unpleasant of all, he was a complete dick and they had a lucky escape. 

Whatever it was one can't help but wonder why they are always surprised pissed off have a tanty flounce deactivate their account when people point the obvious out to them...

They fucked up

A fact that even they had mentioned when they wrote the post

Maybe the definition of insanity is not repeating the same mistake and expecting a different outcome, but answering your own questions and expecting to like the answers...