Friday, July 20, 2012

Consent matters

There is the usual hubbub on Fet at the moment as the NCSF once again ponders how best to deal with issues of consent and more importantly the statistical outriders known as the CNC crowd. One of the biggest issues they have with us... apart from the complete lack of understanding of what makes us tick... is our reluctance to heel to their ministrations. Apparently it still upsets them that we aren't suitably grateful for their attempts to assert their mantra of consent... particularly the bit where we can withdraw it.

Umm... hello?

A cursory glance at most of the CNC crowd around on Fet would reveal the most articulate, mouthy bitches around. We wouldn't hesitate to safeword, withdraw consent or retaliate against a decision we didn't like. There was a reason our owners took away those weapons from us in the first place. And yet we still manage to muddle along in long term relationships that often border on the edge of normal.
One of the reasons this blog was started... other than to amuse Him and pay homage to German engineering... was to show what one of these relationships looked like. And let's be honest it is dead dull most of the time. Mind you there probably isn't a reader out there who hasn't thought that taking away those weapons was a sensible decision on His part... life preserving in fact J

The trouble with the NCSF, who do a lot of good, is that they don't realise that we don't look at their member's lives of scening, protocols, traditions, fake hierarchies and public personas and think they are our people. There is not universe in which we are ever going to say thank you for giving us unsolicited advice on our relationships...
For one simple reason...
We do not acknowledge their authority.
Well that and the fact that no one likes the safety police J

5 comments:

Kitty - The Submissive Wife said...

I don't understand the alphabet soup at all, but I do appreciate that you also own your decisions.

Such as they are. I also know that if any person in any normal relationship (and by normal, I mean loving) really needed to leave, they would.

So, there's that.

MsSparkles said...

I think 'we don't recognise them as having any authority' is a factor responsible for a lot more ill feeling from people who feel snubbed than is often acknowledged.

Master's piece said...

@Kitty the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom :D

Symply Desire said...

I'm done with defending my choice of CNC to people. This is my life, I play safe, I'm happy and how I chose to do this is my choice. Thankfully I avoid most of the drama on fet.

ancilla_ksst said...

Well said, MP!