Notes from bridges

Much though one enjoys Fet there is a downside. That downside is often the kinksters and their persistent refusal to realise that how they do relationships is not how we do them. See what they don't seem to get is that we realise how profoundly these relationships change us.  It is why one has always called it down the rabbit hole. You may come back, but you won't be the same. Probably ever again... and that is OK... all relationships do that on some level.

Knowing this means that it is kind of tedious having people debate your life and existence as though it is grist for the mill.  Which for them it is, but that combined with their need to tell us that we are playing and that this is all imaginary does get dull. All of life is a construct... theirs is too. It doesn't make it less real.

This stuff causes profound changes in how we interact with others. Personally one searches for similarities rather than difference. It is also because we just get drowned by the myriad of voices that can be found on public boards that one tends to avoid these types... life is simply too short. Unfortunately they still come across the feed via those one does like to stalk. That friends list is something of a double edged sword at times.

In many ways tuning out the naysayers is an essential skill because otherwise one just becomes burnt out and retiring from public boards rather than enjoying them. It's better than becoming swamped by the continual voices saying our way is wrong, dangerous and not real. It is not that one can't separate the right for us from the wrong just that their noise is deafening

Often people accuse one of being picky and elitist when it is really a form of self protection