Friday, November 16, 2012

The handkerchief code: Why it failed

It marginalised people.

Many moons ago, largely in the Gay scene, a handkerchief code was created. It was beautifully simple; each colour represented what you were into and the side it was worn on represented whether you were a giver or a receiver. Now on the face of it the idea was a good one. When you were out and looking for something specific, it saved a lot of pissing around.

Of course as our kinks came out of the closet the code got bigger and bigger. These days it is so big it is unwieldy. Not to mention some of the hankies are just well... bordering on the fussy. Lace frills no less in some cases. Can anyone guess what those ones are for?

The real trouble was for those kinks that come under the heading YKINMKAYKINOK. Brown hanky... let’s just give that a wide berth... There is Mr. Brown in the centre of the room with everyone carefully avoiding him. See we like to pretend the kink community is one big happy family. We are all about inclusiveness... oh yes we are.

Failing that we can just studiously ignore the things we don’t like... it works for the ostrich. That way we won’t have to come up with a way to deal with the things that repel us, alienate us, make us feel anything remotely uncomfortable or challenge us to look at our prejudices and preconceived notions. So much easier for everyone... except those whom we are marginalising as we make ourselves into socially acceptable fun loving kinksters.


Mutters really need a label for sarcasm...


ancilla_ksst said...

We are totally into the SSC thing. Master says so, it must be true.

Kitty - The Submissive Wife said...

I guess if you the way you give or receive is the only part about you that you take into a relationship, then a hankerchief code would work.

But, we do not exist in a submissive vacuum just waiting to suck up any dominant that is willing to come our way. No, there really does have to be a bit of knowing and trust there, don't you think?

Also, I have no idea what SSC is?

c said...

We've never been able to remember which side is which when it comes to hankies. And for some reason Mistress doesn't want to chance it... :-)

Not to mention I think we would have to sew our own multicoloured hankies, and then it would be really confusing.

Master's piece said...

@c LOL there is this vision of a multicoloured hankie... looking rather like The Doctor's scarf... being artfully draped :D