Monday, November 22, 2010

The art of orgasm denial

Most people have sex with the idea of achieving orgasms... otherwise it is a lot of work for no real payoff and for some even then it is not worth it... a view that Lord Chesterfield summed up as sex; the pleasure is momentary, the position ridiculous and the expense damnable. For some of us though not achieving orgasm has a payoff of a different kind, but it is a fine line to walk.

Too much sex without orgasming leads to one becoming turned off from the idea... one becomes less interested and it gets harder to actually achieve an orgasm. It is almost like the body forgets what to do. Conversely achieving orgasm makes one more affectionate (apparently), but it also means one tends to lose interest in you rather fast. Not coming all the time makes one more focused and a lot more obliging... a state He rather enjoys.

He has been playing around with the mix for a while now and it was one of the reasons He switched over to anal sex. During vaginal sex it is far too easy for one to come and most of the deterrents like pain just get overridden by the body in its pursuit of happiness. During anal one can’t come without external stimulus and it does take longer to achieve. He has a lot more control over one’s body... and to be honest He likes anal more... all those years of reading classical literature about sodomy have perverted his sexual views :D

Now some of you are just wondering where one small slave is in all of this aren’t you? Well it’s complicated. Given a choice between vaginal and anal sex one would chose anal for the simple reason that the orgasms are so much better... that arousal/ pain thing always creates better orgasms as does the slowing down of the process. Orgasm denial just sucks sometimes, but overall it is erotic to not always get what you want... and it makes you more grateful when you do. It certainly reminds you who is in charge... if you control someone’s orgasms you control the person.

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